My parents weren't big on counseling children. They preferred to set an example. I can't fault them. They did a good job. I'm looking 55 in the face with an 11 year old daughter. She's almost 12. I didn't see that coming when I was in my 20's or 30's. Not at all.
My parents never sat me down for any kind of talks that I recall. I think they expected what they were to rub off on me and my siblings. I think it did. For the first 6 years she was raised independent and happily showed off her own accomplishments. She remained true to that for as long as I've known her.
When one thinks about it, a child is a missile sent into the future and one has just the formative years before they leave home at 16 to shape them as we would want them to grow.